I’ve been on this website making thing for the last few days. It started when I was trying to make CEF’s new site because I was ticked off at WoWStead for pathetic customer service. I have a pretty nifty site going at http://nx.ChristianForce.net/ if you’re interested (I’m a geek.. NX was the registry for experimental starships in StarTrek). Anyway, I got making my personal blog yesterday. Which of course you probably know if you’re reading this.
Well, I’ve been very…I’m searching for the word…disgruntled? There is another word but I’m too tired to figure it out…anyway disgruntled about local churches. Over the last five years every church I’ve gone to has closed the doors on its young adult ministry. This last time was at the Freedom Center in Fenton, MI. They closed their weekly meeting at the church. They have their “small groups”, but coming from my church background the idea of meeting a bunch of stranger’s in their house without the neutral ground and safety of the church building is just too much for me. But again, as I said, multiple churches. New Hope in Clarkston. Good Shepherd which closed years ago. And more have had little or no ministry or fellowship for my age group.
I have more or less spent all of my teenage and adult life without a solid church who gave a rip about providing an atmosphere for Christians to meet and develop relationships with other Christians. I think that a large part of my own problems in life have come from not having that church foundation to rely on and support me. I am more or less floundering. The church has not provided me any opportunity to use or express my gifts and talents. I AM NOT CONTENT SITTING IN A PEW!
My parents and now that I’m an adult, myself, have petitioned, complained, and begged each church to rethink their stance. Their response? “We’re waiting for someone who is called for it.” Cop out! Forget that my parents have multiple times volunteered. Forget that there are young adults walking in and right out of their stuffy, dead sanctuaries. Who the heck cares about us? Abandoned. That’s what we are. Abandoned. That’s how I feel. I’ve had no church family to call home. Not because of my family. But because every church hasn’t given a rats ass about my family. Years of hospitalizing sickness for both my mom and my dad…guess how many meals we received? None. Guess how many people stopped by to help us? None. Guess how many people called to make sure things were okay? None. A pathetic joke.
They knew. My dad would call them and ask them for prayer. In one situation the pastor’s wife admitted my mom to the ER (she was a nurse). The pastor’s son was one of my mom’s attendants. Did they do anything for us? No. “Whatever you do to the least of Mine. You do to Me.” Nothing.
14What good is it, my brothers, if a man claims to have faith but has no deeds? Can such faith save him? 15Suppose a brother or sister is without clothes and daily food. 16If one of you says to him, “Go, I wish you well; keep warm and well fed,” but does nothing about his physical needs, what good is it? 17In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead.18But someone will say, “You have faith; I have deeds.”
Show me your faith without deeds, and I will show you my faith by what I do.
25In the same way, was not even Rahab the prostitute considered righteous for what she did when she gave lodging to the spies and sent them off in a different direction? 26As the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without deeds is dead.
James 2:14-18, 25,26 (NIV)
Getting back towards my original idea… taking a shower (I get a lot of epiphanies in my shower…good place) I came to the brilliant idea of setting up a mock church website. Let me rephrase that, a fake church website. This is why I was thinking about it. I’ve been strongly considering going into the ministry. I wanted to create a website to show what I thought a church should be like. Well that thought lead to another and I came to a really good one. “What if I setup a site to meet and arrange events (like going to see a movie) with other Christian adult singles in the area?” Why do I have to be a church to be upset about the lack of fellowship and make a difference? I’d make fliers and post them all over the place with the website address. People would see fliers and check out the site. The site would be setup in a way that people could message me and we’d setup a schedule to meet regularly. Say every other week to start.
Whether or not I have the boldness to pull it off is another story, but can I be the only one who feels abandoned by the church? Am I the only one desiring fellowship with other Christians? Am I the only one feeling so alone?
There are a few obstacles of course. One right from the start I’d post a basic “This is what we believe thing”. I think its important to make sure the group has a foundation. I also want to make a basic code of conduct. I mean I know its a bunch of people meeting together for fellowship at random places in the area, but I want to keep an order to it. I want there to be set standards for how people are expected to act if they want to be with us. That and it’ll weed out people not really genuine…not all but some.
So this is something I’m going to sit and pray on and work up the courage and motivation to pull it off. Someone has to start making a difference. I have the talent and skills to put a group together and lead it. It’d be a very casual group with the sole purpose of getting other Christians talking. Mingling. Why? First I think that its important to have a network of Believers to rely on. Keep you on the straight and narrow. Second the church is so incessant that we marry other Christians, but they don’t promote an atmosphere for us to do that. I don’t expect to meet my wife through this, it’d be cool if I did, but the purpose has to be out there. If you’re meeting other Christians and putting yourself out there you’re exposing yourself to more people who influence your decisions in a godly manner.
So I’m excited about this idea. I’m going to talk it over with some of my family and friends. Get some advice. See what they have to say about it. I think it has real potential.