During break I was walking down the school hallway.  I heard some students discussing the current problem with Tiger Woods and how if he had not been married the scandal would have long disappeared from the news.

This made me think…why does him being married make it more of a scandal than had he been single?  If he was single would it have ever made it into the news?

For those who think sex before marriage is acceptable I think the question should be asked is why?  Why is it okay for you to have sex with whomever you want and for a married person it becomes wrong?

Its okay to "try people" out until you make a committment to one…

Has it ever been considered that our societies view of sex is also the largest reason for broken marriages?  Sex has become a tool of personal enjoyment. A fullfillment to personal pleasure rather than a tool to bond two married couples.

The "try them out" attitude of premartial sex carries over into marriages.  Why should a man or woman stop simply because of a piece of paper? What if they become bored? Unfulfilled?  Why can’t they go try another partner out.  I mean of course you’re still living with your spouse…still paying the bills… Society says its  okay. It was okay before I was married…why isn’t it now?

See the problem?  I’m sure those who agree with premarital sex do not see the problem. But the effects of it carrying on into marriage are evident.  When we go from centuries of 5% divorce rate to a 50% divorce rate something has to be said…Is it really worth it?

Lets think of the millions of children permenantly effected for life.  Did you know that children of divorced parents are they themselves more likely to have a divorce?  The vicious cycle continues.  Did you know the death rate for divorced people is significantly higher?

Of course there are numerous  reasons for divorce. Some are fully justifiable (in my opinion). However, a strong look should be taken at the source cause of some…and that is infedelity.

If what we learn as children carries on psychologically and emotionally into adult hood, if our past effects our future, maybe a stronger attention should be placed on our sexual desires.

I find it hard to believe that a guy or girl who sleeps with many partners before they are married will stop that habit for long in marriage.

One of the greatest symbols of love is patience…the other self-control.

One moment of weakness things got out of control with a girlfriend and me…the perfect opporuntity to go "all the way".  Later she asked me "I would have let you do anything you wanted…why didn’t you?"

My answer? "Because I loved and respected you enough. Because neither of us would have ever forgiven ourselves. I couldn’t hurt you like that."

Food for thought… "We’re doing it because we love each other" is just a copout excuse for selfishness.